What is This?

What is this?
This is so easy it’s scary
So beautiful it shouldn’t be real.
Flowing like effortless wind it envelops me
Spilling forth all that’s with in me concealed

This is my joy at the start of a work day
This is my smile at the end of the night
This is my motivation, inspiration, and elation.
This is, quite simply put.. right.

This is just two people coming together
To break down the walls and to wash away fear
This is what anchors my world when it’s spinning out
Calming the mind when it needs to be clear

This is what some might call being in love.
This is when I say…
This is.

Pros of Dwarfism

View of dance floor and stage at LPA conference

                One might not think that being a little person has its advantages, but actually, it has its high points. No, no pun intended there. Since this week holds the LPA national conference, it’s a perfect time to talk about some of the more favorable moments that having dwarfism brings.

  • Ducking under things:
  • How do you feel when you’re at work and need to plug your laptop in under the desk? While the rest of you moan and groan about getting under the table to grab the dropped fork or plug in the phone charger, it’s significantly simpler when you’re already low and don’t have to contort your body just to get in that little space. As an added bonus, such spaces are perfect for us to hide in if need be. Also, I often use this as a shortcut to navigate around or under the guide ropes which denote where people should be standing in line.

  • Kids’ prices
  • Sometimes we’re mistaken for children, and that’s annoying, but once in a while it works for us. When an admission fee is less for a child and the person at the door thinks I qualify, well, I’m not going to argue the price reduction. Sorry not sorry!

  • Interaction with children
  • For many young kids, disability is a subject of great curiosity. They point and ask questions as we pass by, but often they’ll wander right up to a little person and strike up a conversation. Since we’re on their level physically, children often come to think of us as equals even though they understand we’re adults. For me, this has led to many games in hotel pools, because why not let out my inner child? We make great baby sitters, child care specialists and pre-k teachers for this reason.

  • Smaller sizes
  • Some people with dwarfism, like me, have short arms and legs but typical sized bodies, while others have small features in every sense. Either way, we have shorter sleeves, smaller shoes, etc. For packing, or laundry purposes, this can be rather useful. We have less to fold and find room for, making our clothing easier to manage.

  • legroom
  • People often complain that they don’t have enough legroom when flying. Well, for us with short legs, this is a little less of an issue. I’m not saying plane seats are all that comfortable, but I do enjoy not having leg cramps after a four-hour flight.

  • Sleeping on couches
  • You know those moments where it’s late and your still at your friend’s come three A.M? For someone who’s height is around 4 feet, it’s easy just to lay down on the couch and crash. Literally, we can lay across it and still have space to stretch out, as long as we don’t try to roll over. This fact has come in handy quite a few times and quite a few ways in college and at conventions both.

  • Books, TV and movies
  • There’s a lot of media which features little people. From reality TV shows like Little Women LA, to books with dwarf characters like Eragon, and movies like Harry Potter. Although none of these accurately portray the lives we lead, it opens up a dialogue which people connect with. Most disabilities don’t receive so much airtime, but the fact that the little people community does allows for plenty of room for discussion and education. Many people argue that media portrayal is a disadvantage, but I have found it far more helpful than harmful in the end.

  • LPA

As a last added bonus, I’m including what I believe to be the greatest advantage of all. I got involved in the Little People of America shortly after graduating high school and began attending events and conventions across the country. For me, LPA was a great way to meet others with dwarfism and learn about aspects of living with dwarfism. This sort of interaction was one that could never be found anywhere else and has been a great experience for me. To all those currently in San Fransisco, have fun!!!!

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Proudly at Pride

Image of a balloon archway which marks the end of Boston's pride paradeIf you know me, you know I’m not much of a mmorning person, but saturday morning came and I was ready to go! The day started with a pre-pride brunch lead by the fabulous AccessAI team and Boston City Counselor Michelle Wu. AccessAI, a local pilot program which allows for Aira access throughout our transit system, also allowed for free usage throughout pride, and I, like many others, gathered to connect with and support this strong team. Located near the start of the march, we all decked out with swag, enjoying breakfast sandwiches and copious amounts of coffee before snapping a few photos and setting out for Boston Pride.
Here, I used that same Aira program to grab a train and make for City Hall where the marchers would finish. Although I had never used the program and am not familiar with the train system, this success was invigorating and empowering; the perfect setup for the perfect pride mindset. At city hall plaza, music was pumping and people were everywhere! The energy was contagious, with friendly strangers aproaching, chatting and even describing some of the festival that surrounded us from what enders were where to the various creative outfits worn by celebratory participants. Finally, an announcement was made to find a spot to stand out of the parade route in preparation for the countless marchers to come through.
Rainbow themed marching band passing by
Standing in a crowd of eager cheerers, I loaded Aira again. This time, I was ready for descriptions of the people marching by. Excitement grew as they aproached, with people all around clapping and chanting and yelling! Finally the groups came one by one, with banners and flags, brightly colored clothing, streamers and all sorts of decorative creations. The groups spanned all ages and capabilities; children, grandparents, people in wheelchairs, on bikes, of all ethnicities and even with pets. Some played or performed music as they passed, while others handed out strings of colored beads, flags or fans for the summer heat. With every group that went, we clapped, cheered, and waved, calling out the words on their signs or simply, “Happy pride!”
When it was over, the plaza was teaming with marchers and watchers alike, returning to its social upbeat atmosphere. All around were people moving to nearby shops or festival events. For me, it was time for another cup of coffee in a local coffee shop where I again chatted with the various attendees that filled the space. Then, it was off for some much-desired dinner and finally to make my way home.
My first pride experience was inspiring and uplifting, showing me the strength of the local LGBT community and those beyond. We are people of all backgrounds, and we are proud to be the uniquely diverse individuals we are. The world in which we live is a mostly safe and accepting one, but there is still plenty of work to be done and that extends far beyond an event which occurs one day a year. Experiencing this year’s pride has given me the motivation to be even more active and outspoken in our fight for understanding, equal and safe conditions. Yes, I’m proud to have been part of Boston Pride, and will most certainly be back next year.


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LGBT+ME

Pride flag

The LGBT community has been part of my life since I was about thirteen. No, that wasn’t the time I decided I identified as LGBT, but the time I began learning about what it encompassed. Trust me, when your best friend leaves for highschool and comes home to tell you she’s a lesbian after always liking guys, you’d want answers too.
Open-mindedness was part of me even then, so I embraced the community as an active ally in short time. That is, until a little way through my own highschool experience where I realized that, just maybe, I could be attracted to girls and guys both. So, did that make me bi?
This answer came in college, where I learned about gender identity as I immersed myself in the school’s student body and greek life. The word I’d been looking for was “pansexual”, meaning that I don’t see gender as a deciding factor in who I romantically like. Establishing this transformed me from an LGBT ally to an outspoken participant in LGBT events, and that hasn’t changed in the slightest.
For me, there has never been any “coming out” process. There has definitely been a process of self-transformation in order for me to figure out where and what I identified as, but none of that was ever secret. People at school and home saw me going to LGBT groups, and if anyone had questions in that regard, I would always answer with whatever I could at the time.
This month is pride month, and I’m proud to be a part of this diverse community. I’m proud to do what I can to advocate and stand beside those around me fighting for their rights, their safety and their love. I’m proud to say I’m attending my first pride parade in Boston tomorrow. I’m proud to be me, and I’m proud to identify as LGBT+
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I Access Life

Three young guys at a restaurant table

There’s a new app on my technological radar, and it’s called IAccess. Before anyone gets mad, it’s not just for iphone, but for android devices too. This app is new, but has loads of potential. In a nut shell, it’s like Yelp, but with a focus on accessibility.

I am completely blind, and I have dwarfism, which for me means I have difficulty with long walks, high seats, and loads of stairs. Not that I can’t deal with such things, but that I try to avoid them.

Using IAccess, I and others can rate the accessibility of all types of venues. Yes, accessibility looks different for everyone, but these ratings and comments make for a great start when deciding to access a venue or not. As of now, its focus is mainly on wheelchair accessibility and allows a location to be rated on accessibility of the entrance, bathrooms, interior, and parking, after which additional comments can be added.

Since this app is crowd sourced, it means that there are no ratings unless we rate places ourselves,. This makes it ideal for posting opinions on accessibility, but also means that if we want to see such information we must get more involvement on the app. It also means that, in my opinion, the developers should add more rating options to the mix in order to accommodate a wider range of disabilities. Is the menu or inventory accessible online to the blind? Is the atmosphere loud or quiet, well-lit or not so? What kinds of seating do they offer? Unfortunately, there is only a small amount of writing allowed in the text box so some of this extra information couldn’t fit if entered in manually.

We all want to know what type of situation we’re getting into before we get there, and that’s especially true when it comes to accessing any kind of public setting. IAccess is a fantastic solution the question of venue access, as long as people of all types put their input into the mix. No matter your abilities or challenges, definitely toss your thoughts into ratings of places you’ve visited. I, personally, look forward to more ratings in my area and the changes that the developers put in place. So if you’re looking for a cool new app to try and want to contribute to a neat project, I suggest taking a look at this. Together, we can build a more accessible world.

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Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

A group of young people with disabilities

Yes, I went there. Why? Because sex and disability is another one of those topics kept hushed up unnecessarily. Despite its prominence in modern music and culture, it’s often avoided around those with disabilities. We go to doctors offices where they look at our family when asking those questions, or avoid eye contact at all. In schools, some of us don’t even get taught these things. At home, they’re not brought up at all.

Can we have sex? are we even sexual? Do we know what sex is? Yes, we do, and if we don’t, we should.

Everyone deserves an education as to the ways of the world. Not that we need to use it, or like it, but in this crazy world, at the very least be aware of it. Open up a safe dialogue for questions. For some of us with physical limitations, well, we have to get creative, and sometimes that means needing assistance coming up with ways to make it possible. Let me tell you, there are some creative methods out there.

Stop avoiding the conversation. Ask the question. Our answers might surprise you, so have the discussion like you would with anyone else.

We’ve come a long ways in equality, inclusion and acceptance, but there are some places where the general community lacks. This is one of those places, and its one that shouldn’t be excluded from the disability discussion no matter our own individual take on the subject. Some lines of dialogue just need to remain open, and this is one, so let’s open it wider and stop shutting it tight.

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Ladies’ Choice

A group of girls
When I was in high school, I wrote a research paper about abortion. More specifically, it discussed the possibility of eradicating disability by using genetic tests to identify and abort babies who would be born different. As a young girl with disabilities, the idea that a mother would kill their unborn child because they found out the baby could have challenges bothered me. I still don’t love that idea. If someone aborts their child after finding out it might be blind, or a little person, or have intellectual challenges, well, I don’t want to know about it. I do however want them to at the very least have the choice to do so, and that’s the bottom line.
Every lady has the choice to do what they want with their own body, whether the rest of us like their choice or not. Every woman has their own unique situation that the rest of us know nothing about and have no place to judge. Is she too young to be a mother? Was she sexually assaulted? Are her living conditions suitable to bring a child into the world? Is having a child safe for her? There are a million reasons why a girl might decide not to have their baby, and each one is nobody’s business.
Moreover, none of those reasons are the business of law-makers, most of whom are men who, for obvious reasons don’t bare children. While they spend time blaming the women and emphasizing that abortion is murder, they don’t touch upon the realization that preventative measures like birth control and condoms don’t always work, that sexual assaults by men are a huge problem, and that so many other factors can be going on unseen in the girl’s world. In a country where fetal and maternal mortality rates are so high, you would think at least that would be considered, as would the fact that more babies would be born into foster care or harmful living situations.
Unfortunately, none of this seems to hold much weight in certain parts of this country today, which makes it more important than ever to stand your ground and speak out for what you believe in. I believe in women like me and my mom and our friends being able to have the choice to do what we believe necessary with our lives and our bodies. I believe in safe and clean medical conditions for the care we need. I believe in children being born to capable, loving women who are ready for them. I believe in choice, and I would like to believe in fixing our sadly disappointing country rulings.
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Accessibility Is Easy

Creating accessible and inclusive environments may seem daunting in this increasingly digital world. While one might think that the fast evolution of technology would leave people with disabilities behind, the opposite is true, making it easier for us to be included in most any new development. today marks 2019’s Global Accessibility Awareness day, and it’s a perfect time to look at a few fantastic examples of accessibility which build a more inclusive world. Imagine the doors that can open for you or your company by understanding how much accessibility exists and how easy including our community can be.
Image of me wearing Aira smart glassesFirst, meet the technological advancement I love most. It’s called Aira, and it’s a visual interpreter for the blind. Basically, it uses smart glasses, or a phone’s camera, to connect to a live agent who can see my surroundings and describe what they see. With Aira, I can do anything from navigating an unfamiliar building, reading mail, picking an outfit for work, and an endless array of other tasks. It takes away the stress of inaccessibility due to not being able to see what others can, and it’s available to me at the touch of a button. While it’s usable based on a paid subscription, it can also be free to access at certain designated locations.
You might be thinking yes but, how do you even use a phone? The fact is that most modern mobile devices and computers have built-in software to make them usable to people of all abilities. Enlarged text and contrast options help people with limited vision, while screen reading software reads anything on screen to people who are blind, and text to speech dictation assists those who have difficulty typing. More and more companies add accessibility into their electronics and software, so we can manage awesome scenarios like this.
My friend and I sitting infront of a large audio board facing microphonesMeanwhile, services such as rideshare and grocery delivery transform the lives of people with and without disabilities as do virtual assistance like Siri and Alexa. Though they might make life easier for the average person, they level the playing field for the disability community without being an obvious nod for inclusive and accessible.
Accessibility, digital or otherwise, is not just about modifying and adapting for people with disabilities anymore. It’s about including and integrating everyone into the swiftly moving day to day world. There’s some great resources surrounding hiring and adapting for people with disabilities in the workplace, as well as info on accessible websites. Of course, questions are always welcome via my communication channels as well. Comment below, or keep the discussion going via twitter or facebook. Also check out Patreon to get a jump on exciting new content on the way.
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What Everyone Should Know About Mental Health

Image of me sitting at a table. I'm wearing a fancy blouse and my hair is done up with a little curl.

“I’m losing my mind.” “You’re crazy!” “This is mental!” “Are you insane?” These are everyday lines that we think little of, but it’s about as far as conversations surrounding mental health ever go.

Thanks to, of all things, a TV comertial, I recently learned that May is mental health month. So, I decided now was as good a time as ever to talk about something that few people do and more people should; mental illness, or mental health. Personally, I find the term Mental illness to be slightly extreme for all cases, but to each their own.

The last few years have taught me, if nothing else, to become more aware of my own mental health. Along the way, I began to learn why these topics are kept so quiet and what kinds of things people with or without a mental health condition should know. To start off the month, let’s break a few barriers and discuss some important pieces of mental health awareness.

  • Mental health conditions take many different forms. It can range in severity and will effect every person in their own way.
  • Not everyone who encounters mental health challenges has a diagnosis, takes medication, or goes to therapy.
  • Mental health fluctuates, just like physical health can. Some times are fine, others not so hot.
  • Anyone can experience difficulties with their mental health at any time, for any number of reasons.
  • It’s important to be aware of your own emotional needs, as well as develop strategies for those moments when everything is going wild.
  • To the same point, it’s equally important for everyone with or without mental health disorders to maintain open dialogue in this regard.
  • People who struggle with their mental health may seem perfectly normal, functioning just like anyone else. More often than not, we are well-versed in handling our internal messes.
  • If you believe someone you’re close to is having a rough go of things, just check in with them. Supportive networks go a long way.
  • Remember that even if someone doesn’t take you up on the offer, doesn’t seem receptive, isn’t wanting to talk, etc, it doesn’t mean they aren’t appreciative or uncaring. Sometimes those reactions come with the territory.
  • If you feel like your challenges are to difficult to overcome, There are loads of resources that can help. There’s no shame in calling a hotline, finding a therapist, needing medication, or going to a support group. No one’s in this alone.

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Shockingly Curative

Photo of a younger, maybe seven year old me holding a microphone.

Last week I was taking a look through twitter on my lunch break, and came across something that got me talking.


Well, he shouldn’t have to explain how wrong this idea is in 2019, but it turns out that’s exactly what we we did. We’re all entitled to our opinions, I suppose, and I probably have a particularly strict stance on this seeing as how I live so close to JRC with all its controversy.
The discussion got me thinking though, and not just about how wrong this “cure” would be, but about “cures” in general. See to me, the word’s a bit strong; a bit… final. I’ve heard about “curing” blindness, “cures” for types of dwarfism and of course, “cures for Autism.” I’ve also heard about “curing” cancer, or diabetes.
Google defines the word “cure” as, “Relieving a person or animal of symptoms of a disease or condition.” So, to “cure” ADHD, autism, blindness, or dwarfism would be to erase characteristics of ourselves that are brought about by our subsequent diagnoses. For many, like myself, these “conditions”, more commonly in our case called “disabilities”, are part of who we are. Personally, I don’t want to be “cured” of these things that have played such a key part in my life. Should there be treatments to help us live better, see better, learn better, live better? Absolutely, but does that mean we need to be “cured?” I think not.
Rather, I think those who develop “cures” need to be focusing on the diseases that kill people. Cancer, Diabetes, diseases which greatly limit a persons’ lifespan, or endanger their lives. These are what I want “cured.” Not my blindness, or dwarfism, Autism or ADHD. Let people choose what they want treated. Let’s not start running around “curing” children before they can decide weather or not they want treatment. To “cure” one disability is the segue into “curing” them all, and that will only lead to a world which has taken ten steps back in acceptance and diversity. That is not where the world should be focusing its energy, nor is shocking behavior disorders out of young kids.